two things

I would like to say I am pro-RH Bill but I haven’t really read the whole proposal so I can’t agree wholly to it.  But I agree to its basic idea of doing our part in controlling population growth – it’s for our own good.  I can’t see what’s immoral about it.  That bible saying “humayo kayo’t magpakarami” just applies to that period in time where people were scarce.  At this era, we already did that.  Humayo na tayo at nagpakarami - ng bonggang bongga. Don’t you think it’s time to halt?

We need to be educated (specially the kids) about the basic consequences of unsafe sex.  It’s not cool to have unwanted pregnancy and have this “bahala na” way of bringing up their kids.  Andyan din kasi yun parents na mapag-iiwanan sa bata kung gusto man nilang magbuhay-dalaga.  Oh, well, such is life.

Having a child is a huge responsibility and once you’ve become a mother it’s going to be your full-time state from here on out.  You can’t switch that role off.  That is why I agree that “ang pagiging parent ay pinagpaplanuhan”.  I have so much respect for full-time moms cos right now I know I can’t be one. :P

My say here is – if you can’t abstain then protect yourself.  And if you did get pregnant it’s imperative to NOT think you’d have a choice of getting it aborted.  Abortion is a no-no.  the choice here is to get yourself protected to not get pregnant. 

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Surprise, surprise.  I am anti-divorce.  For me it boils down to this one important thing: Divorce dissolves the sacredness of marriage.  If it gets approved here then anybody can marry because they now have the option of divorce, if in case it didn’t work out.  Divorce is like a pre-nuptial agreement: it’s a safety net.  Divorce is an easy way out.  WHY GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE IF YOU HAVE THOUGHTS OF GETTING IT DIVORCED? Marriage is not just an overnight celebration – it is a responsibility – and you commit to it ‘for as long as you both shall live’.

And as for those married couples who really need to get separated, they can file for nullity.  Because if divorce gets approved here, they said that the process of divorce would be almost the same for annulment.  And if that’s the case, why do we need one? They can just amend the grounds for legal separation / nullity of marriage / annulment. 

Marriage is sacred and not everyone is entitled to it.

Happiness Without Price

*categories taken from an article; I edited it out to be more suitable for pinoys.

Here are some ways to be happy without too much spending (or without spending money at all!)

Friends – call one of your friends and ask what’s new about them.

Challenge – think of a subject that you wish you knew more about, then spend 15 minutes on the internet reading about it, or take a step forward acquiring a new skill that you want (ex: search for a nearest and less pricey yoga class).

Do good, feel good – sign up or participate in an org.

Energy – walk around!

Order – clear clutter.  Reorganize your cabinet / workstation.

Guilt – apologize, confess, repair, replace or return something that you borrowed.

Nagging tasks – fix something broken.  Fixing things will give you a sense of achievement.

Good citizen – smile at a bank teller.  And to a bus conductor.  And to a stranger who seemed grouchy.

Gratitude – reflect.  Meditate.  Pray.

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Famous last words:

“The true journey of the soul is all about mastery of the self and owning up to one’s ability to use power as a mean to get closer to completeness; or to emptiness.”

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Dr. Barton's Top 10 "Be's" of a Successful Relationship

Being your best is not very complicated.

Published on June 23, 2011 by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. in Emotional Fitness

Couples in successful relationships have some things in common. Much of the time it's not about what they do or don't do, it's about who they are as people and how they behave with each other. Here are some of the many ways the happiest of couples interact with each other.

1.     Be best friends. Tom Hanks and Steven Speilberg both say that they are best friends with their wives. People who don't think that having a best friend as a partner is romantic are usually single and bitter. Having a best friend in your heart and bed is the best part of a loving relationship.

2.     Be able to laugh at yourselves. Having a sense of humor about your life and your relationship is one of the keys to thriving. Life throws us many curves and without the ability to see and appreciate the irony, you could end up hating the world and each other.

3.     Be open to new ideas and experiences. If your partner only wanted to do the things you like to do, life would soon become dull and uninteresting. Having a partner who exposes you to different perspectives and dreams will make your world and soul fulfilled.

4.     Be willing to be willing. When change or compromise is called for you don't have to accept it immediately. Just being willing to look at things from another perspective can often be enough to help you resolve most differences that occur in an emotionally fit relationship.

5.     Be kind. Kindness and courtesy are perhaps the most undervalued and under used human virtues. Courtesy, communication and kindness can turn conflict into consensus, and controversy into cooperation with a single act of kindness.

6.     Be able to give all of your attention. Giving your partner 100% of your attention when they want to talk to you is one of the most bonding and powerful things you can do. Couples who engage in this all too rare ritual have a deeper and more loving relationship.

7.     Be demonstrative. Couples who touch and hold each other often have fewer arguments, enjoy life more, and stay healthier. Touching is one of the deepest forms of communication.

8.     Be trustworthy. To be trusted one must behave in trustworthy ways. Never give your partner any reason to doubt your loyalty or devotion. Whenever you are away from each other check in regularly to let them know you're okay.

9.     Be available. If your partner has a problem, be the one they call first. Commitment means that you can count on your partner to be there for you when you need them.

10.  Be proactive. Don't wait for things to go wrong before you make an effort to work on your relationship. Couples who take a relationship inventory and see what they have as well as what it is they might need in the future, are much better prepared for difficulty and have longer lasting, more successful relationships.

Being the best you can be for your partner and for yourself is one of the most rewarding parts of coupledom. It's not very complicated, just remember to put your best self forward and behave the way you would like your partner to behave. That makes it safe for both of you to come from the heart - that is how great relationships are made.

Broken Rope (Christine Bongon)

I.

I said i love you but you never replied

I said  i miss you but you just smiled

Every night my heart and eyes painfully cry

But not even a single day you asked me how am i

II.

Every morning i wake up i know you're never there

but here i am hoping that ill still meet you somewhere

My heart often ask  me why do i still stay

stay loving a man who keeps me astray

III.

Many times i tried to run and hide

but just a word from you make me swallow all my pride

Even though i know its all again just empty promises

that will again drag me to the room of emptiness

IV.

Its crystal clear that every hug,kiss and word from you are fake

And its so painful that its the best thing you can make

For i have no room in your heart

Because you never open it from the start

V.

Now i will not anymore beg for that little love

Little love that i know something ill never have

But i just have one wish can you never again give me false hope?

so that i can now finally  let go the rope.