this is, to me, the cutest photo, everrr.

Ebe Dancel (Sugarfree) and Vin Dancel (Peryodiko)

The Game (Neil Strauss)

"I like Style. He was obviously very practiced at making people like him. He made me feel important. He had a way of summing up many of my more clunkily expressed ideas into simple, beautiful statements - all the while attributing the eloquence back to me.. And And yet I wasn't so sure what his weakness was. We all do that as we get to know someone. We are never comfortable with those who have no visible flaw."

(-Neil Strauss, 'The Game')

 

 

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*btw boys - that book will change your life. =D

 i'm not supposed to read it but i want to know the rules of the game so that  i know the counter attack / what to do the next time.

"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.  If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.  If you are honest, people may cheat you.  Be honest anyway.  If you find happiness, people may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.  The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.  Do good anyway.  Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.  Give your best anyway.  For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway." 

— Mother Theresa

happy 13th anniversary Baklush Society

 CHEERS =)   *click on the photo twice to enlarge

forgiven, not forgotten

i know i have a fickle heart and bitterness

and a wandering eye and heaviness in my head..

(-Adele)

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whoa i didn't know it would still sting even after all those months of me trying to be ridiculously fine.

sorry doesn't seem to make up for it apparently. unfortunately.

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mayday mayday for mei

she was tagged as the queen of Cubao Expo.  

alaala. pagaling ka mei nang makarami pa. =)

the parties she created in the past years were always been uber fun mostly because you don't get to see hipsters unite and party so hard.

this coming October 7, there will be a party meant to raise funds for her operation.  her illness wasn't disclosed. but we are all going and will pay our respects to the queen. 

second theme: cats

black and white

geeks

chesters around the world

The Meantime Girl

*reposted from Arlene. thanks
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She`s the one you call when you`re bored because she makes you laugh. She`s the one you talk to when you`re feeling down because she`s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She`s not the one you call when you need a date to your company`s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She`s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find `The One`. You know, the one you keep in the MEANTIME. 

She`s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don`t look at her as a "real" woman, either. She`s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in the light. She`s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She`s too understanding, too comfortable. Doesn`t make you feel nervous or excited the way a `real` woman does. But she`s cool, nice and funny, and attractive enough that when you`re lonely and need intimate female companionship, she`ll do just fine. 

You don`t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don`t have any facades to keep up, no pretense to preserve. You`re not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She`s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you. And you know that you don`t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she`ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn`t the beginning of a relationship or that there`s any possiblity that you have any real romantic feelings for her. 

It won`t bother her that you`ll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you`ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She`ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She`s just so cool.. why can`t all women be like that?! 

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don`t.. because to you, the situation between the two of you isn`t important enough to merit any real thought) you know that it`s really not fair. 

You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don`t think she`s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it`smostly her fault, because she doesn`t have to give in to your needs - she could really play hard-to-get. Bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn`t pull it off. Maybe she`s too short, or a little overweight, or has big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell, or just really not that type. 

Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. 

You`ll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she`ll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux. 

She doesn`t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. 

Mainly, she blends in with the crowd. She`s safe. She doesn`t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone`s head. She wants to be SPECIAL to someone, too. We all do. 

She has feelings. She has heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger heart than any woman you`ve ever known because she`s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. 

She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you`ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is. - Anonymous

stranger on a bow

(by Nikki Paredes)

They say there is an old cave

where I am heading.  They say

people leave a part of themselves

there: a possession carved from bone,

or a useless yearning, or an anguish,

all giving them a human face, a design.

Yet I brought nothing with me.  I remain

on the verge like gradient, like the lie

a sailor tells when there is nothing to miss.

The boat soon moors.  A woman waits

by the caver's mouth.  She lights a candle

for someone who will never come back.

Recreation: Creating a New Thought Over Someone Else's

my current addiction: collage.  i search for photos (in different shades or themes) and mash them to one picture.

each one represented a thought i had while "collaging" the photos.

but for now my theme is colors. (click on the photos to enlarge)

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travel

mother nature's son

emotion

girlie guilty pleasure

when the sea is calling me

dreaming of a white...

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famous last words:

'color your world.'

three degrees of inter-relation

"I don't know what else to tell you.  All I have is I AM SORRY.  I'm sorry that you have to be put through all of this.  I did not tell you to do so.  I did not ask for any of it.  I was just quietly living my life.  And it seems like you're not getting the signals right.  Don't you think I wouldn't let it known if I felt the same?  Don't you think I'd pass this chance now if  my feeling is the same as yours?  We obviously live in 2 different lives and adjusting yourself won't make it work.  And I don't even think you're in love with me -- I think you're in love with the thought of love.  With the though of 'getting the girl after all the suffering, after all this time'.  Don't turn us into a movie you've seen somewhere.  Sorry for being brutal but I need to give it to you straight.  I really am sorry, I'm just not it.

And hey, I bet you've met so many someones who sees your real worth.  Don't diss them out.  Don't waste your time on me.  Give yourself a chance to love again.  With those many other someones."

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(*disclaimer:  this was written as  me experiencing both parties - the dumped one and the other.  but why do I feel like I am not the only one who's going to relate  to it? hmn.)

how to be happy and productive without the guilt

"we are all born alone, and we all die alone.  what matters is the happiness you obtain in between."

but to others, they tend to lose their sense of self-worth while in the process of chasing happiness.

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and so i've listed down the things i do / my tasks (i had this researched before, so the list doesn't come entirely from me) that i will do / will do whenever i want to do something productive that, in return, will make me happy.  

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1.  look in the mirror, smile and sincerely compliment yourself.  feel good about yourself.

2.  visit an entertaining website. (my current fave: ramon bautista's formspring)

3. spend time with someone who makes you laugh.

4.  go to your favorite local spot and chill.  find serenity.

5.  while chilling at your fave spot, get a post-it, doodle/write a quotation about something 'hopeful' or 'cheerful' then leave it for someone to fins/read.

6.  check out music sites and discover an uplifting and fun song.

7.  prepare a scrumptious food and a big mug of coffee - then sit back, relax and enjoy a looong brunch.

8.  do one good deed and make it a habit to do it everyday.

9.  play your pop tunes and dance around, or sing along to it - out loud.

10. go to your little nook and start that darn book that's been sitting on the corner for ages.

11. make a collage / draw / write a poem / frame a photo of a favorite memory.

12. visit you favorite bookstore / the city library.

13. visit the nearest gallery.

14. take a nap.  it really does make me happy.

15. get a haircut - but not to your usual go-to salon.  try a new one. (goodluck with that hahaha)

16. walk. look around and get inspired.  in my case, i call it "refuel".

17. take photos.  of anyone, anywhere.

18. watch a concert / gig of some artist you've never heard before.

19. learn to cook!

20. indulge.  be it a 2-hour massage or buying a new cd or eating a high-end pastry - go right ahead and do it.  you know you deserve it.

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i hope this helps.

see? there's no excuse in sulking. or being bored.

or repeating that sinful pleasure which leaves an ugly effect on your soul.

go get your good vibes back.

come on, let's shine out inner lights.