viva singledom!

PROS:

being single for a looooooong time did a lot of good things to me.  the most important of them - it made me independent.  waaay too independent, actually.  i don’t need a man to take care of me, that’s what i got used to think of.

time - having time for myself helped a lot in knowing the real me - with no influences whatsoever.  i have time to explore my mind and get more creative and productive with my life. there is happiness in solidarity.

it never made me “assumera”.  sometimes i could have a reason to think twice, but when it enters my mind, i never entertain it for a long time.  just like hope, it stays for a while but i kill it afterwards.  so until a guy hasn’t said anything to me yet, imma keep that friendly vibe around.

it made me tougher.  sometimes i wonder what it feels like to be a bratty little girlie weakling  who whines about the tiniest of things.  maybe life would be easier on me if i complain a lot and let others feel uneasy until they do something about what i’ve been complaining about. 

the single life is fun because you have no expectations - you just do the things you do and enjoy!  i got time to help others.  nobody owns me but the universe.  when the time comes that i will have someone, i’m pretty sure he’d understand what i mean when i say i want a life on my own.  we’d be just two souls out to explore each other’s universe, not create our own world and live in it.  he’s had a life before me and i’m not taking it away from him. 

truth is, there are things you cannot do when you’re with someone so while you’re still single - mingle, damn it! enjoy! go crazy  

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CONS

independence may be a great thing, but sometimes it gives off a wrong signal to men.  it makes them feel like we don’t need them around anymore.  it’s just that, i never needed anyone to do stuff for me, or make me feel secure.  it’s the companionship that’s what matters to me.  keywords: compatibility and wavelength.  that’s all i want.

and time sometimes could be an issue.  since i have been single, the things i do are always fixed.  my routine.  i’m so used to being alone - i’ve gotten too comfortable.  i’m not used to spending time with too many people.  i’m not used to giving my time on a man. 

not assuming leads to me being clueless, or just plain stupid.  in case you don’t know, i’m beneath the signals anymore,  i’m like a guy - so give it to me straight.  tell it to my face.  because i used to like reading minds but now i just don’t have the time for it. 

being too tough is also a problem.  just like being too independent, having a tough heart is a dilemma.  it has given me this aura that i am too stubborn.  or this aura that i’m too tough they treat me like a guy as well.  high fives involved. 

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but what’s so wrong with being single?

you just do the things you do to reach your goal while at the same time preparing yourself to be a better person when the right one comes along.

if he ever comes.

(*ang ganda na sana sabay naging pessimist sa last sentence.  pambasag lang)

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famous last words:

“if only i could tell you how different you are with the rest of them.”