hahaha this was given to me by a colleague/friend who knows what I've been going through. cheers, Pao =)

How To Be A Confident Alpha Male

 

Tip #1:

Displaying your Alpha Male side means displaying confidence and charm with men AND women. It is crucial for you to constantly work on building your social network. Look, I’ve seen lots of guys who study “pickup” because they want to understand how to become an Alpha Male. Even if some of these men become more skilled and confident when they’re around women, they still act like “Beta” guys when they’re around other men — especially Alpha Males whom they perceive to have higher status than they do.

Obviously when you go out to socialize, your principal aim is to meet girls, but making new alliances with “Alpha” guys is going to help your long-term lifestyle. Make this a part of your new routine. Whenever you’re hanging out in a social environment — such as a nightclub, bar or party — and you notice guys who appear to be popular, radiate positive energy and are having a great time (and flirting with the girls) — introduce yourself to them. Simply introduce yourself to the guy who seems like he’s getting a lot of positive attention from the ladies: “Hey man, it’s looks like you’re doing well with the chicks here. So what’s your secret?” There is a 90% chance that he will shake your hand, want to know you, and now you’ve got this guy as a friend and wingman.

Expanding your network of Alpha Male friends (and wingmen) will have major benefits. You will find yourself being invited to parties, bars and events that you normally wouldn’t have known about. They might also know girls they want to introduce you to. Also, when you surround yourself with cool Alpha friends it automatically raises your social status in the eyes of women.

You may need to begin spending your free time with some new wingmen, if the guys you usually go out with don’t have a healthy level of energy and confidence.

 

 

Tip #2:

The next piece of advice on being an Alpha Male is that you must stop being wishy-washy, and be decisive instead. Women respect men who lay out a path for them to follow. It may sound chauvinistic, but it’s true. A girl doesn’t want to be the one to decide where to go eat dinner with you, or which bar to go to for drinks. Actually, when you act indecisive around her, and make weak suggestions, you’re actually causing her to lose interest in you. Women need to feel that their man is emotionally strong and able to provide security and protection. 

Whenever there is a decision to be made, YOU need to step up and express how you think it should go. This principle even applies if it’s as unimportant as choosing where to go eat or have coffee. She may not always agree 100% with your decision, but she feels good knowing that you step up and MAKE decisions.

The weak move is saying to a girl, “So if you’re not busy sometime, maybe we could meet up and do something…”

On the other hand, an Alpha Male might say this: “Tell me your favorite romantic comedy, and I’ll rent it — we’ll watch it Friday night at my place while I cook dinner for us.” Or, “You told me that you love Indian food. I know about this great restaurant that’s sort of “off the radar”, and I want to show it to you. Let’s do it Saturday night at seven o’clock.”

  

Tip #3:

Always leave ‘em wanting more. The top Alpha Males – whether it’s a business mogul, or a Hollywood star – are very busy people. They’re not going to grant you endless amounts of their time. Your mental attitude should be the same with women. It’s important for you to be the one ending the conversation first — whether this is a phone call to set up a date, or a conversation at a club.

The normal guy doesn’t know how to talk with girls. He’ll just keep talking and babbling until the woman finally says, “I have to go find my friend” or “it’s was nice talking to you, but I have to get going…” As an Alpha Male, you must ALWAYS have a game plan in mind when you talk to a girl, and accomplish that objective before the conversation ends. When you’re hanging out at a bar, the purpose might be to get her digits and see here again. Or, if you’re calling her on the phone, the objective could be to figure out when you will see her again. Fundamentally, you’ve got to have a plan, a strategy, and a way to execute it.