All of us have these in our lives - a family member or a friend or a colleague who constantly rants to us about every little thing they could complain about. It gets to our nerve. They sort of drag us down to their melancholy that is their lives. Like me, you can deal with it by following these suggestions. (*these only works with the stupid little rants they tell, this does not work when the problem is huge already)
okay go <3
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When negative people rant, THEY JUST WANTED TO BE HEARD. So first, (1) give your full attention to them, listen very well and emphatize. Be very cautious on what you're going to say. (2) Do not suggest a plan or a solution / do not strike up a debate - because you will never win with them. They will prove their point, whatever it takes. You can only give out your awesome suggestions when they ask for it. (3) And try not to prolong their dragging negative comment - change topic! Lighten up the mood. Joke around, but try not to be sarcastic. And if they brought up the topic again - (4) give it a closure. "I understand" or "OK" must seal it up. another closure is the lesson learned, or the good thing that came out of it. But if they still keep on bringing it up, if they can't see the hint that you do not want to talk about it anymore, if they can't seem to see the light in life, then (5) fuck it, leave. You don't have to go through what they're going through. You have been patient enough. You already have done your part.
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famous last words:
"I understand that the generation today is very expressive and that technology had given them the floor for it. But kids, please, do not abuse it. Not everyone is interested to what you just had for lunch. Express creatively and responsibly. And, uh, get a life." (pvd)
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